RITE OF PASSAGE Vol.3 by Chuck Kelley
As long as we continue with closed off beliefs about all of the “supposed tos” and “oughtta bes” and “should bes” and all the other preconceived notions of and about life and its workings, we will continue running into brick walls.
I suggest that we all put away our subjective thinking as our GPS and trade it in for objective thinking. Subjective thinking is placing excessive emphasis on our own moods, attitudes, opinions, programming, cultural fantasies, etc… Objective thinking is, rather than being influenced by personal feelings, interpretations, or prejudice… it’s thinking based on truth, on facts, on what actually IS! When we stop arguing with what IS we finally gain the ability to create change.
This is easy to remember; Notice what it IS, acknowledge that it IS what it IS, and accept that it IS what it IS. Then, fully informed with the truth, we have the materials we need to renovate our piece of the structure.
It was later in my journey that I stumbled onto this. Most days had been punctuated with struggle because so little of what IS was how I believed it should be. My level of appreciation was pretty much nil, in my mind, I should have already had it, or something better than that or some other piece of less than positive judgment on it. Happiness is fleeting, at best, when we’re stuck in Fairy Tale Fantasy Land.
The stories we were told as children, those books and other forms of programming with the Hollywood endings corrupt our understanding of what IS. The STORIES we tell ourselves (continuously) about what is or isn’t happening can be extremely paralyzing, until we release ourselves to what IS true, rather than our imagining and opinionating…and waiting.
Life becomes simpler by letting it be what it IS, and working with that. There is a great book which shows us how to switch to the objective thinking process, called Loving What IS, by Byron Katie. She also has a ton of videos on YouTube. Making this switch may be the single most important action of your life…so, it IS time well spent!