WALKING IMAGINARY LINES         by Chuck Kelley

Many of us struggle in our efforts to move up into the next higher level of achievement, some of us are still stuck around ground zero.  There are those of us who work, study and practice for years, honing our “specialty”, before we’re willing to go out there and compete in our chosen arenas. We may dabble a bit here and there, but we don’t really go for it…at all.

Surprisingly, perfectionism is only a very small element in this equation. The most universal definition of perfectionism is; the need to be perfect, or to at least appear that way. Our desires have moved us way beyond that.

Many of us, for various reasons, truly believe, way down deep, that we may never be enough, never actually measure up, regardless of our efforts, regardless of the countless positive feedback we’ve received from others. We feel doomed to mediocrity, shame, humiliation and embarrassment. Sometimes, it’s incredibly difficult to simply let ourselves be seen. So, paradoxically, we feel that we must accomplish feats that most would never dare. Average accomplishments won’t do. We must stand far above the masses!

We attempt to fool ourselves into believing that accomplishing our desires could lift us up; make us feel whole, acceptable, worthy…that we’ll finally be OK! It’s practically all we can and do think about…each day hoping we’ll somehow pick up that one missing piece of something that will be our key into the Kingdom of the Masters.

The main issue is that while we do sincerely desire to achieve our goals, what actually drives them is often quite startling. We, almost, believe that if and when we achieve our goals we will finally have a bold and lasting sense of massively positive self worth.  Finally, the constant torment issued from within our minds will fall silent. We will have conquered the beast!

But, for our group, what actually drives our goals is the belief that if and when we do achieve them, it will change the opinions of all of “them”; the naysayers, the haters and doubters and we will finally be free! That is our Supreme Desire! To change their minds…To prove our worth and be released from these chains of unjust assessments! Which might really work…but, what happens if we fall short of the level of greatness that we deem is necessary to properly straighten these heathens out?

To be continued

 

 

 

 

Chuck Kelley
Since his early teens, Chuck Kelley has tried to understand what makes us tick. Having had a troubled youth, he sought anything and everything that might assist him in getting his life together. Feeling universally misunderstood, he was determined to understand our nature and find some peace in his heart. Wanting to fit in while believing that he was totally unacceptable, he spent the majority of his life trying to become who and what he was not. The successes in business, the restaurants, the food manufacturing companies and all the other businesses he owned and operated, meant little to nothing to him because his accomplishments felt small when compared to certain others'. He felt that he was cursed to living a life of not being enough. Over the past forty plus years, Chuck has read practically every self help book, taken practically every self help course and tried an equal amount of self help programs. Along the way he has become certified in practically everything that hints of personal development, such as; Life Coaching, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Hypnosis. In short, he is a walking, talking self-help clearinghouse. Now, he shares the things that work universally and he leaves out the rest. Having discovered that perfection is unattainable, and acceptance is subjective, he continues his research into every field that may lend insights into how to be more comfortable in our own skin and thrive in life. Embracing and openly admitting his perfectly perfect imperfections, "Because that's how I roll", has brought him more freedom than a massive trust fund. His wish is to save others the time, trouble and the wear and tear.
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