SWALLOWING THE KEY                   by Chuck Kelley

We do this every day. We lock the door and swallow the key which keeps us trapped in the Dummy Loop, separated from our liberators, because, we continue to identify with our fragile little ego.  Since it’s so fragile, we feel that we must protect and defend it at all costs, bolster it with bravado and place it high upon the mountain top. The lower our self esteem the higher the pedestal and the more intense the counterattack.

There’s nothing wrong with protecting ourselves, it would be insane not to. It’s a question of which self. I agree with Alan Watts, who says, “there is no ego, it’s just a role we’re playing. We are all trained actors, schooled in acting from birth on, molded into a dominate way of being…predictable behaviors befitting the role.” Alrighty then…

Our training, our upbringing, is actor training, we are being trained to fit into a role…we are the understudies. We’ve been made to believe that we are a specific somebody, one who already is who we actually are, but that is hiding within us and that we must find that one, the correct one, rather than all of those impostures who populate our consciousnesses who are “demons from hell” eager to sway us to the dark side.

We have remained troubled and unhappy, because we couldn’t find within us the role we’ve been forced to play and that creates a sense of falseness, which leaves us believing that we don’t know who the Hell we are! Regardless of the thoroughness or intensity of a search, something that is not there will not be found. Thus, a life of inner conflict and confusion follows until we come to grips with the fact that no actor can portray every role, especially when they simply are not suited to it.

Change roles.




Chuck Kelley
Since his early teens, Chuck Kelley has tried to understand what makes us tick. Having had a troubled youth, he sought anything and everything that might assist him in getting his life together. Feeling universally misunderstood, he was determined to understand our nature and find some peace in his heart. Wanting to fit in while believing that he was totally unacceptable, he spent the majority of his life trying to become who and what he was not. The successes in business, the restaurants, the food manufacturing companies and all the other businesses he owned and operated, meant little to nothing to him because his accomplishments felt small when compared to certain others'. He felt that he was cursed to living a life of not being enough. Over the past forty plus years, Chuck has read practically every self help book, taken practically every self help course and tried an equal amount of self help programs. Along the way he has become certified in practically everything that hints of personal development, such as; Life Coaching, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Hypnosis. In short, he is a walking, talking self-help clearinghouse. Now, he shares the things that work universally and he leaves out the rest. Having discovered that perfection is unattainable, and acceptance is subjective, he continues his research into every field that may lend insights into how to be more comfortable in our own skin and thrive in life. Embracing and openly admitting his perfectly perfect imperfections, "Because that's how I roll", has brought him more freedom than a massive trust fund. His wish is to save others the time, trouble and the wear and tear.
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