DO-BE-HAVE                        by Chuck Kelley

So that the Future You does not suck and so that the Instant Gratification Virus is killed deader than a doorpost, we must shift our manifesting formula from Do, Have, Be to BE, DO, HAVE.

For example; Let’s say we’ve become sad because we’re lonely, we’ve lost the desire to go out and be among people, especially people we don’t know, we hate blind dating and we’ve heard all these horror stories about online dating…we’re just miserable and can’t see our way out of this. No matter what we do, we just keep having the same experience over and over again and we are becoming convinced that we will never be happy again. In this example, no matter what we do as who we are right now; a person with problems, doubts, and negative attitudes and feelings…that’s all we have to offer as a person, so, no we will never be happy, period.

What do we want in the above example? We want to have a relationship that will make us be happy. What would the other person want from us…what are we offering them, this person who is suppose to make us happy? Well…we’re a bit morose, we’d rather not engage in anything or with anyone, we’re opinionated, doubtful, negative…we’re just a ton of fun!!!

A great question sequence to ask ourselves is;

What do we want?

How will I feel when I get it?

How will I treat it once I’ve received it?

How will I feel in general, once I’ve had it for awhile and have faith that it will last?

What will I be like on a daily basis?

What will my life be on a daily basis?

How will this change me?

Who will this cause me to become?


For example: Let’s say that I want $5,000,000.00. Once I receive it I’ll be so happy, relieved and excited, I’ll feel powerful and successful and unbelievably grateful! I’ll call everyone I know who would be truly happy to hear the news. I’ll treat my money with respect, keep it clean and organized, I’ll take my money out on the town for a great time and spread good cheer with it, I’ll work with it to help those in need, I’ll treat it as if it were alive and I’ll let my money know how much I appreciate all it has done and is doing for me, by staying positive, protecting it and utilizing it responsibly. Once I’ve had my money for awhile and I know that it’s real and that it’s here to stay if I treat it in kind, I’ll become more relaxed, unhurried, calm, very confident, more considerate and courteous and sure. I’ll be so thankful each day and I’ll find ways to share myself and money with others in ways that are respectful. I’ll wake up each morning knowing that no matter what, everything is ok, I can have pretty much whatever I want, I can go and do as I please… I’ll slow down and actually LIVE my life, a wonderful life. This has caused me to see with new eyes, who I was in the past would never have had these thoughts and feelings. This experience has taught me; when I begin to BE this person, I will DO what this person would do, instead of what my “old” person would and that alone will attract to me more than my wildest dreams and I will HAVE whatever I decide to have.

BE, DO, HAVE. Simple.




Chuck Kelley
Since his early teens, Chuck Kelley has tried to understand what makes us tick. Having had a troubled youth, he sought anything and everything that might assist him in getting his life together. Feeling universally misunderstood, he was determined to understand our nature and find some peace in his heart. Wanting to fit in while believing that he was totally unacceptable, he spent the majority of his life trying to become who and what he was not. The successes in business, the restaurants, the food manufacturing companies and all the other businesses he owned and operated, meant little to nothing to him because his accomplishments felt small when compared to certain others'. He felt that he was cursed to living a life of not being enough. Over the past forty plus years, Chuck has read practically every self help book, taken practically every self help course and tried an equal amount of self help programs. Along the way he has become certified in practically everything that hints of personal development, such as; Life Coaching, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Hypnosis. In short, he is a walking, talking self-help clearinghouse. Now, he shares the things that work universally and he leaves out the rest. Having discovered that perfection is unattainable, and acceptance is subjective, he continues his research into every field that may lend insights into how to be more comfortable in our own skin and thrive in life. Embracing and openly admitting his perfectly perfect imperfections, "Because that's how I roll", has brought him more freedom than a massive trust fund. His wish is to save others the time, trouble and the wear and tear.
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